A big reason that lots of women feel they “can’t” do a boudoir session is because their body has changed after having a baby. I’m not shitting on women who do improve they’re fitness having a baby, that’s fucking awesome. What I’m shitting on is the social pressure moms are put under to look a certain way. To “lose the baby weight” or to “get your pre-baby bod” back. The experience of being a new mom is overwhelming in itself, then the added stress of feeling like you need to be in the best shape of your life while doing it is just cruel. Bodies change, especially after childbirth. Having a certain size or shape of body is not essential to being a good mom or to being a woman, for that matter. We as a culture, need to realize this, and to help women feel more comfortable appreciating and accepting their bodies. This is what Natalie said about her session:
“I did a scary thing. And I’m so glad I did. I was terrified. I didn’t like the way my body looked; I had a young toddler, an emergency c-section past my due date, and suffering from postpartum depression hadn’t done by body any favors. While I had once weighed more, my Mom bod had relocated some squishiness to places it hadn’t been before. I decided to take the plunge anyways so that I could work on my self love. My hair and makeup were done and I trekked over to Vernon to meet Jenna, who instantly put me at ease. Looking at that collection of photos, you’d never know that we laughed most of the way through the shoot. I love the photos, and it taught me that EVERY body is worthy of wholehearted LOVE, even if you haven’t attained some lofty goal or image in your head. If you don’t love yourself the way you are, exactly at this moment in time, you’ll spend a lot of your life being really miserable. Those dimpled legs carry me up mountains, those soft arms hold my baby tight, and the whole squishy combination is capable and tough enough to help deliver babies.
Thank you, Jenna, for helping to remind me of that. xx”
Thank you, Natalie, for doing this even though you were afraid.
Beautiful hair & makeup by Jessica Langedyk.
Bre is the kind of person who, when you meet her, you feel like you’ve been friends for a long time. She told me she enjoy’s making the best of all things, and making people feel good because life is too short for bullshit and unhappiness.
She booked her session totally for herself, and to document her current body. Like most people, she said she was worried the she feels un-photogenic and awkward in front of the camera.
We had a super chill, fun session and when I sent her gallery I got a response that I wasn’t expecting.
Holy shit! I cried looking at these pictures (I never cry) they blew me away. I was terrified to see them. These mean the world to me and made me realize that I need to do things I fear WAY more often. These pictures are something that struck my soul! Made me see myself a little differently!
What I wasn’t expecting was that she was terrified to see her photos. She is SO easy going and was so relaxed about the whole shoot, and obviously there’s always some anxiety in waiting to get the finished product, but I just had no idea how scared she was. I asked her to tell me about that a bit:
Before I saw the photos I was thinking that I wouldn’t like them, and that the judgmental side of my brain would take over, it didn’t. I was floored by them, I watched the slideshow and it made me realize that these are me, I did this to accept myself for what I am.
Kaitlyn booked her session because she wanted to embrace her natural curves. It’s something she had always wanted to do, but hadn’t because she felt awkward in photos. She also told me how she’s struggled with body image issues over the years, and how doing a boudoir session was a BIG deal for her. I feel you, it was a BIG deal for me too. For some people it’s not, but I work best with the women who do feel a bit awkward in front of the camera, and who do struggle to see their body in a positive way. This is what she said when I asked her what she would say to someone who could relate to feeling awkward and conflicted about their body.
Honestly, I had so many nerves about it right before I got to your house, it’s such a vulnerable position especially for someone who has always had weight and body issues. Then I just said fuck it, this is me, my body is beautiful. I would tell people not to wait until they “lose the last ten pounds” because it’s not going to make a difference in how you feel. I was there, I was in better shape and lighter than I am now, and I still didn’t feel “good enough” but I am good enough and so is everybody else. My session made me see myself in a different light which was amazing. It’s is a fun way to embrace yourself, and all women are different, so just do you!
Kaitlyn got off the fence, booked her session, said fuck it to her nerves, shed her inhibitions and slayed her session. I’m so happy we met and grateful that she shared a bit of her story with me xx
Thanks to Jessie for the beautiful makeup. Makeup by Jessie Voss